Posts Tagged child custody

Child Custody Scheduling Tips During the Holidays

Child Custody Scheduling Tips During the Holidays

The holiday season is one of the busiest times of the year. Between holiday shopping, decorating, planning parties, and baking, it may feel like there are not enough hours in the day. The hustle and bustle of the holiday season can be even more difficult when you share child custody with another parent. We have compiled a list of tips to help with your child custody schedule during the holidays.

Plan Ahead

Planning ahead ensures that both parents get sufficient time with their children during the holiday season. This also ensures that each parent knows what to expect, including when they have custody of the child and when they may need to drop them off or pick them up from visits with the other parent.

Be Flexible

Being flexible can help you and your family adjust to any last-minute changes. Holiday plans may cut into normal child custody schedules. Be willing to change your schedule so that your child can spend time with their other family. In return, your ex-spouse is likely more willing to accommodate you when it comes to any last-minute changes.

Maintain Old Traditions

Adjusting to the first couple of holiday seasons after a divorce can be difficult for each member of the family. Try to maintain some old traditions for the sake of your child. This may include both parents being present while a child is opening their Christmas presents. It may also include the family attending holiday parties together.

Set New Traditions

It’s also important to begin setting new traditions, so your child has new things to look forward to during the holiday season. Create new traditions that involve just you and your child, so they can learn to adjust to the new family dynamics. You can even involve your child in choosing the new traditions, helping everyone find something that they’ll enjoy most.

Swap Holidays

Sometimes, sharing custody of a child on the big holidays may not be possible. If this is the case, consider swapping holidays. If one parent gets custody of the child on Christmas Eve, plan for the child to spend Christmas day with the other family. If you live close to each other, you may even split Christmas day.

Make Time for Yourself

Don’t forget to make time for yourself. A divorce is a big adjustment for everyone in the family, including you. Be patient with yourself during this time. Fill any time you may have during the holiday season without your children with friends and family so you don’t have to spend the day by yourself.

The ‘firsts’ can be one of the most difficult parts of a divorce. You may be reminded of family memories before the family split. Planning ahead, and finding ways to replace previous memories with new ones, can help you and your family enjoy the holidays again. Paying a little extra attention to your child can ensure that they have a good holiday season despite the many changes. If you and your ex-spouse find it difficult to agree on holiday schedules, it may be worth talking with a family lawyer.

Contact a VoorheesFamily Law Attorney for a Consultation About Child Custody in New Jersey Today

If you are thinking about filing for divorce, or if you have already started the divorce process and are dealing with another matter, such as child custody, child support, or division of assets, you need to speak with a qualified attorney. The New Jersey family law attorneys at The Law Offices of Daniel K. Newman represent clients throughout the state, including Pennsauken, Voorhees, Lindenwold, and Haddon Township. We understand how challenging this time can be for you, which is why we will fight hard to protect your interests, and the interests of your loved ones, throughout the legal process. Call us at (856) 309-9007 or fill out our confidential contact form to schedule a consultation. We have an office conveniently located at 1202 Laurel Oak Rd # 207, Voorhees Township, NJ 08043.

The articles on this blog are for informative purposes only and are no substitute for legal advice or an attorney-client relationship. If you are seeking legal advice, please contact our law firm directly.

How Is New Jersey Child Custody Decided and When May It Be Modified?

For many people, child custody determination is one of the more stressful aspects of divorce. Understanding how judges analyze child custody and parenting time in New Jersey can allay fears and prepare parents for often-emotional child custody proceedings. In addition, when a parent’s life dramatically changes after a child custody arrangement is finalized, knowing whether custody modification is possible also can be helpful.

When parents with minor children get divorced, they may create their own child custody arrangement and include it in a marital settlement agreement. If the parents are unable or unwilling to resolve the child custody issue, a judge will make a child custody determination that is in the best interest of the child.

CHILD CUSTODY FACTORS

When analyzing which custody arrangement would be in the best interest of the child, judges in New Jersey must consider the following factors listed in N.J.S.A. 9:2-4:

  • The parent’s ability to agree, communicate and cooperate regarding the child;
  • The parent’s willingness to accept custody and share custody with the other parent;
  • Any history of domestic violence;
  • The child’s and either parent’s safety from physical abuse by the other parent;
  • The child’s needs;
  • The age and number of the children;
  • The preference of the child if he or she is capable of forming an intelligent decision;
  • The quality and continuity of the child’s education;
  • The distance between the parents’ homes;
  • The stability of each parent’s home environment;
  • The amount and quality of time spent with the child before the divorce;
  • The parent’s employment responsibilities; and
  • The fitness of the parents to raise the child.

According to New Jersey statute, a person is not deemed unfit to parent unless his or her conduct has a substantial adverse impact upon the child. Also, there is no presumption that either parent is preferred for custody solely because of his or her gender.

The New Jersey Legislature has declared that the state’s public policy is to assure minor children frequent and continuing contact with both their parents, if appropriate considering the children’s best interest. After divorce, New Jersey laws also encourage both parents to share the rights and responsibilities of raising children. Therefore, the most common types of child custody in New Jersey is joint legal and shared physical custody.

TYPES OF CHILD CUSTODY

When joint custody is awarded, the child frequently alternates between the parents’ two residences. The child custody order will declare the physical custody and residential arrangements for the child and designate the Parent of Primary Residence (PPR) and the Parent of Alternate Residence (PAR). It also will contain provisions for communication between the parents on major life decisions for the child such as healthcare, religion and education.

Otherwise, if joint custody is not in the best interest of the child, a judge may award sole custody to one parent.  Moreover, New Jersey law also allows judges to order any other custody arrangement that they determine is in the best interest of the child. Joint custody is most frequently ordered, however, and deviations from this norm are unusual.

CHILD CUSTODY MODIFICATION

Once a child custody arrangement is ordered, modification of its terms occurs only by agreement or a substantial change in circumstances.

Because the primary consideration in child custody determinations is the best interest of the child, a parent seeking to alter custody must establish a prima facie case for modification by showing that a substantial change in circumstances affects the welfare of the child such that his or her best interest would be better served by modifying the custody arrangement.

If the petitioner is able to establish a prima facie case for modification, a judge then must consider whether information gathering through discovery is necessary. If so, the judge will order discovery and define its scope. Oftentimes, the judge will hold a plenary hearing at which each parent presents his or her testimony, arguments and evidence. The children may be interviewed by the judge depending upon their ages.

A substantial change in circumstances is a difficult standard to meet. Job loss is not a probative factor unless the parent’s situation is so desperate that he or she is unable to care for the child; however, evidence of substance abuse or physical abuse by a parent is generally sufficient to warrant a change in child custody. Judges also consider the age of the child and his or her preferences, if old enough, as well as the child’s schooling and the lifestyle of the parent.

If you are considering divorce, are wondering what might happen with your children after divorce or would like to modify an existing child support order,contact a family law attorney with experience in child custody cases to discuss your legal rights and options.