The holiday season is one of the busiest times of the year. Between holiday shopping, decorating, planning parties, and baking, it may feel like there are not enough hours in the day. The hustle and bustle of the holiday season can be even more difficult when you share child custody with another parent. We have compiled a list of tips to help with your child custody schedule during the holidays.
Planning ahead ensures that both parents get sufficient time with their children during the holiday season. This also ensures that each parent knows what to expect, including when they have custody of the child and when they may need to drop them off or pick them up from visits with the other parent.
Being flexible can help you and your family adjust to any last-minute changes. Holiday plans may cut into normal child custody schedules. Be willing to change your schedule so that your child can spend time with their other family. In return, your ex-spouse is likely more willing to accommodate you when it comes to any last-minute changes.
Maintain Old Traditions
Adjusting to the first couple of holiday seasons after a divorce can be difficult for each member of the family. Try to maintain some old traditions for the sake of your child. This may include both parents being present while a child is opening their Christmas presents. It may also include the family attending holiday parties together.
Set New Traditions
It’s also important to begin setting new traditions, so your child has new things to look forward to during the holiday season. Create new traditions that involve just you and your child, so they can learn to adjust to the new family dynamics. You can even involve your child in choosing the new traditions, helping everyone find something that they’ll enjoy most.
Sometimes, sharing custody of a child on the big holidays may not be possible. If this is the case, consider swapping holidays. If one parent gets custody of the child on Christmas Eve, plan for the child to spend Christmas day with the other family. If you live close to each other, you may even split Christmas day.
Make Time for Yourself
Don’t forget to make time for yourself. A divorce is a big adjustment for everyone in the family, including you. Be patient with yourself during this time. Fill any time you may have during the holiday season without your children with friends and family so you don’t have to spend the day by yourself.
The ‘firsts’ can be one of the most difficult parts of a divorce. You may be reminded of family memories before the family split. Planning ahead, and finding ways to replace previous memories with new ones, can help you and your family enjoy the holidays again. Paying a little extra attention to your child can ensure that they have a good holiday season despite the many changes. If you and your ex-spouse find it difficult to agree on holiday schedules, it may be worth talking with a family lawyer.
Contact a VoorheesFamily Law Attorney for a Consultation About Child Custody in New Jersey Today
If you are thinking about filing for divorce, or if you have already started the divorce process and are dealing with another matter, such as child custody, child support, or division of assets, you need to speak with a qualified attorney. The New Jersey family law attorneys at The Law Offices of Daniel K. Newman represent clients throughout the state, including Pennsauken, Voorhees, Lindenwold, and Haddon Township. We understand how challenging this time can be for you, which is why we will fight hard to protect your interests, and the interests of your loved ones, throughout the legal process. Call us at (856) 309-9007 or fill out our confidential contact form to schedule a consultation. We have an office conveniently located at 1202 Laurel Oak Rd # 207, Voorhees Township, NJ 08043.
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